OK - so my husband, Cayce and I met with our doctor last Thursday. He confirmed that yes, we were pregnant and that we had an early miscarriage. He said "you were pregnant just like the next door neighbor who got pregnant naturally was pregnant" and "the reason you had a miscarriage is no different than the reason the next door neighbor had a miscarriage". So fine.
So why??? Why why why? The doctor said it was too early to pull tissue sample to understand better what happened. So we are left speculating. He said to me "when you first found out you probably looked at your husband and said 'it's your fault'. And then you looked at yourself and said 'it's my fault because ____________'. He said you could fill in the blank all day but that it's not my fault, it's not Cayce's fault. It was our destiny the minute that egg and that sperm came together.
Again - why? I need better answers. Our doctor said that in 90% of tissues samples that they pull from women my age, it's a chromosomal deficiency in the EGG (translation: my fault) that is attributed to AGE. (I am 38). So 38 = BAD EGG = BAD EMBRYO.
My doctor said "if I was to do David Letterman's Top 10 Reason why you couldn't sustain a pregnancy, the 1st 9 1/2 would be "age" ". Asshole.
I believe now that age is definitely a contributing factor to infertility. But we started trying right after I turned 35. And I can't tell you how many times before that we were not so careful.
Why is it, then, that I know more people who have had babies in their thirties than in their twenties????
I am still left wondering.
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Dr's suck! Sometime I wonder if they never give you a reason so they can keep stealing money from everyone. Maybe they are in cahoots (sp??) with all these toxic producing companies that are giving us cancer and making us infertile or giving our kids autism and other behavioral issues.
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